Heal yourself, don’t damage others

Author: jacqsunyoga 

In my parenting book, Easy Parenting For All Ages – Raising Happy Strong Kids, I wrote that how you parent your children will affect the lives of so many.  Not only your children’s lives but your own, your children’s spouses’, your children’s children’s and beyond. Your children are your legacies.

Parenting is more than keeping a roof over our children’s heads, keeping them clothed, fed and schooled. It is about filling their hearts with the good stuff. Because they are walking records of all the things we have ever said or done to them – both the good and the bad. How we speak to our children become their inner voices. Oh, I have heard the voices of parents (especially mothers’) in so many grown adults!

We relive our childhood again and again in our adult lives, in different guises.

The brain is probably the least understood of human organs. Until recently, our knowledge of human behaviour comes from psychologists,  but now, the fields of  cellular biology, neurobiology and epigenetics have made made significant progress in understanding how the brain works.

Going as far back as Freud and Jung, it is known that we reenact our childhoods.  Freud called it “repetition compulsion”.  My psychologist, who is also a psychiatrist, calls it “childhood programming”.  Basically, repetition compulsion or childhood programming is our brains unconsciously creating the same unresolved childhood scenario in an attempt to “get it right.” This unconscious drive to relive past events could be one of the mechanisms at work when families repeat unresolved traumas in future generations.

I dedicated my first book on parenting, Barefoot In The City – Raising Successful, Free Range Organic Kids to my friend Eva. Eva took her own life a few years ago. She saw many psychologists and psychiatrists in the months and years before her death who tried to help her get over her childhood trauma.

I was so very shocked that she killed herself. After all, there was no reason to. She had an adoring husband, four lovely children, a nice home, a ‘successful’ life. She had always been busy helping others.

Carl Jung, founder of analytical psychology,  believed that what remains unconscious does not dissolve, but rather resurfaces in our lives as fate or fortune. I don’t think Eva took the time to heal. And here’s my controversial view: helping others does not heal us. We have to heal ourselves first.

I came to quantum medicine late in life. Schooled in old science, I found the quantum world beyond common sense and beyond logic. But who are we? Human beings are made up of cells and cells are ‘nothingness’.  Perhaps just little blips of energy, according to String Theory.  Life and reality are not as tangible as we think.

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Recently, I suffered a huge trauma in my life.  My partner, who is all for emancipation of women, started to exert his cave-man rights on me.  He insisted that I live in seclusion and isolation for six months to heal myself. He had taken a big house in Phuket on long lease for me.

“Let me go home. Let me be a doctor again,” I railed against him. It has become a bone of contention between us, as I am not used to be treated like a chattel.  Logic tells me that I am physically fine now. But my heart, my intuition and my deepest voice tell me to trust this man’s judgment. I do indeed need this time to go inwards, to focus on myself, and to heal completely before I join the human race again.

Behind these high walls, I am healing myself.

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  • Never be afraid to take time out. You are perfectly within your rights to shut the castle doors so that you can go inwards and fix yourself at the cellular level. And it takes time. Those who love you will understand and respect your decision.
  • Shut out all noises. Including your own voice. We need silence more than we think. You need an absolute cessation of mental activities for long periods. Days, weeks, months. Just walk, run, BE.
  • In that abyss, fill yourself with kind words.  Forgive yourself. But in the process, also acknowledge your wrongdoings and ask for forgiveness. You cannot move on without making peace with your past because that is who you are.
  • In your isolation, put down the foundations for a new you. Mediate. Speak less. Stop questioning. Live more mindfully. Love more.
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8 REASONS MOUNTAIN DEW IS TERRIBLE FOR YOU AND SHOULD NEVER BE DRANK AGAIN

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War, disease, hunger, poverty, while these things have plagued the world for hundreds of years, one thing is apparent, no one enjoys them.

They are not addicting like the green sugary liquid that millions consume every single day. That’s right, I’m talking about Mountain Dew.

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The original formula was invented in 1940 by Tennessee beverage bottlers Barney and Ally Hartman. Bill Bridgforth revised that method in 1958 and sold the rights to the Tip Corporation of Marion, Virginia.

William H. “Bill” Jones of the Tip Corporation further developed the formula, creating the version of Mountain Dew that we all know and love. Pepsi-Cola company purchased the rights to the “Green Monster” and began mass producing it in 1964.

This fuzzy drink is big in the South, especially in the Appalachian region as shown below.

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Image Credit: The Huffington Post

In the Appalachian Mountains, Mountain Dew has a cult-like following. It’s no coincidence that Central Appalachia is No. 1 in the nation in toothlessness. This epidemic is known as Mountain Dew Mouth.

(If you’re squeamish, we suggest you skip past this)

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Mountain Dew is killing people all around the world, but many of us are too blind to see.

Don’t believe it? Let’s look at the stats.

Acidic Beyond Belief

We learn from a very young age to never lick a battery because it has acid in it. Well, here’s a fun fact for you. Battery acid (pH=1), Coke/Pepsi (pH = 2.5), Mountain Dew (pH =3). Is your mind blown yet?

Note: These numbers come straight from the US National Library of Medicine and the National Institutes of Health. The lower the number, the more acidic the substance.

 

Testosterone Changes

There’s always been a rumor that Mountain Dew makes young men’s genital regions smaller. While that’s not necessarily true, the bottle it comes in does affect hormones. It’s due to BPA in plastic and can linings. BPA keeps the acid in the soda from destroying the can. When studied by researchers and scientists, the results show that this toxin significantly increases the chance of infertility, reproductive cancers, altering pancreas beta cells, cardiovascular disease, and thyroid dysfunction.

 

False Advertising

Every great product has a marketing slogan that gets the people going. Red Bull claims to give “you wings,” M&M wants you to know they “melt in your mouth, not in your hands,” and Mountain Dew tells its consumers that it’s product is “Game Fuel.”

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Each day, hundreds of thousands of gamers around the world pop in their favorite game and play for up to 12 hours all while downing Mountain Dew.

“They’re just sitting for 12 hours, pounding sodas,” one research told Environmental Health News. 

This “Game Fuel” isn’t only for gamers. Honey Boo Boo, who gained fame after appearing on Toddlers and Tiara, consumes “go-go-juice” before performances, this is a mixture of Red Bull and Mountain Dew. Quite a deadly combination.

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Even Pepsi Knows It’s Bad

We couldn’t make this up if we tried. In 2012, Pepsi Co was sued after a man named Ronald Ball had claimed a can of Mountain Dew he purchased from a vending machine tasted rancid. After pouring out the contents, he discovered a dead mouse inside. He sent this evidence to Pepsi Co, and their response was that the mouse would have “dissolved in the soda in the time between bottling and consumption, turning it into a jelly-like substance.”

Does this not scare you?

GMO Ingredients

If none of the other things above scare you then maybe this will wake you up.

Mountain Dew contains:

  • GMO soy and corn,
  • BVO (banned in Europe and Japan), acid
  • Sodium benzoate (preservative that reacts with Dew’s vitamin C to create carcinogens),
  • Yellow dye (made from coal tar)
  • and BPA

This concoction is like something out of Frankenstein. But don’t worry, Pepsi Co wants you to know that these ingredients all together aren’t dangerous.

“This (BVO) is a safe ingredient approved by the FDA, which is used in some citrus-based beverages. Importantly, consumers can rest assured that our products are safe, and our industry adheres to all government regulations.”

That’s where the problem lies, though, the people in charge of regulations are the very same people that once worked for these companies. It’s called the “revolving door” effect and the movie Food Inc, shows how it works.

The Long-term Effects

Obesity, cancer, and other diseases are killing people at an alarming rate! Is Mountain Dew the direct killer? No, but it certainly is increasing the chances for people to develop serious health problems. We can’t write this off and merely say, “but, it’s only soda.”

No, it is a creation that should never have left the lab.

Is There An Answer To Stop The Madness?

Yes, the easiest thing is to stop drinking soda! It provides no nutrition or substance for your body and the negative effects greatly outweigh the positive benefits, which are none.

Drink water or if you wish to provide your children or yourself with a nice refreshing beverage, then make a homemade soda or juice, it is much healthier, and you control exactly what goes in

Future of Education is Brighter in China, the U.S. Should Take Notice

By:  Yanwen Xia

This year’s Chinese New Year falls on February 10. A couple days ago, PolicyMic political editor Michael McCutcheon asked me to consider why Chinese do or don’t do it better than us. This was actually a good exercise, as we are so used to reading about China bashing that we even feel numb when Google executive chairman Eric Schmidt harped on the old tune in his new book labeling China as “the most dangerous superpower on Earth.”

This article is going to pinpoint one area which the Chinese are doing far better than us, that is, in K-12 education. By looking at how China has done better than us in education, it throws some light into why we have been behind in this area.

China’s success story was often attributed to the immense supply of cheap labor, which is only part of the story. The other part of China’s success is her achievement in education, which, I believe, has been and will continue to be the driving force for China’s success.

Based on the Programme for International Student Assessment (PISA) given by the Organization for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD), China ranks first on all three parts of the exams: reading, math, and science. Some suggest that “China has an education system that is overtaking many Western countries.”

For that year, the U.S. came off 23rd place in science, 17th in reading, and 25th in Math, causing the Associated Press to report, “United States students are continuing to trail behind their peers in a pack of higher performing nations….” Andrew Romano drew attention to the alarm in his article, “How Dumb Are We?” stating, “NEWSWEEK gave 1,000 Americans the U.S. Citizenship Test – 38% failed. The country’s future is imperiled by our ignorance.” Nothing confirms this trailing trend more soundly than the college graduation number. Sean Coughlan wrote in BBC News last year, “Downward mobility haunts U.S. education…The U.S. has slipped to 14th in university graduation rates.”

China’s academic accomplishments result not from heavy government spending or any superior educational system. It is widely accepted in China that parents are a child’s first teachers and the family is always the place where children’s education is nourished and fully supported. Nicholas Kristof says in his article, “China’s Winning Schools?,” attesting, “Education thrives in China and the rest of Asia because it is a top priority — and we’ve plenty to learn from that.” Education has always been a top priority in a Chinese family.

The U.S. government spends 4.8% of its GDP on education, more than double that of the Chinese government. Of 12 countries, United States, United Kingdom, Australia, Canada, Finland, France, Germany, South Korea, Japan, Mexico, Russia, and Brazil, the U.S. spent most, with $809.6 billion total, $7,743 per school age child. Even with those numbers, math test scores are only above those of Mexico and Brazil.

While Chinese parents take on as their responsibility the education of the next generation, in the U.S., people see government as the solution for their education problem as it is evidenced in seeking more government spending and in the fact that teachers, schools, or the system are often blamed for students’ school failure, as if parents are totally inculpable in their children’s low academic performance.

There is a true story about a mother in rural China and how she sent her son to a top university. Every day she would get her work done before her son came back from school. After her son got home, this mother would sit by her son with a book in her hand. “I read my book, and you do your school work,” she would remind her son. Year after year, the mother never failed to be there with her offspring while the boy studied.

After the boy was admitted into a hard-to-reach top university in China, people interviewed him about his success. He said: “My mother was reading all the time. She set a good example for me for these years.”

The boy had no idea that his mother was illiterate. The mother told the news media that she wanted her son to study well. Because she couldn’t help her child with his study, she would do all she could by setting a good example for him. She typifies the average responsible Chinese parents.

Chinese parents’ heavy involvements in their children’s education is the key to China’s education achievement. Conversely, it is safe to say that American parents’ inadequate involvements contribute to the U.S. trailing behind in education.

6 Cancer Causers at Home You Need To Throw Away Immediately

We have grown to believe that our home is our castle. But things have changed long ago and nowadays our homes might be hiding more danger than safety.

Indeed, quite a lot information has been shared about the infamous formaldehyde, nitrobenzene and methylene chloride – all carcinogens that can be found in everyday items such as rubber, plastic, dyes, perfumes, shampoos.

Take a look at a few of the items you thought harmless and see the health problems they can provoke. Then make the right decision and rid your home of many cancer-causers and ensure a healthy environment for you and your family.

In this article, we highlight 6 products that you should toss out and never use again…

1. Air Freshener

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Many air fresheners have carcinogens, volatile organic compounds and toxins such as phthalate esters in their formulas. A Natural Resources Defense Council (NRDC) study of 13 common household air fresheners found that most of the surveyed products contain chemicals that can aggravate asthma and affect reproductive development.

According to a 2008 study by Anne Steinemann of the University of Washington, all air-fresheners tested gave off chemicals regulated as toxic or hazardous under federal laws, including carcinogens with no safe exposure level. None of these chemicals, however, were listed on the product labels or Material Safety Data Sheets. As a replacement, try natural fragrances from essential oils.

Candles

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According to a study by the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC), 40 percent of candles on the market contain lead wires inside their wicks. Scented candles most commonly contain lead wicks. Fragrance oils soften the wax, so the manufacturers use lead to make the wicks firmer.

A candle with a lead-core wick releases five times the amount of lead considered hazardous for children and exceeds Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) pollution standards for outdoor air, says the CPSC. Exposure to high amounts of lead may contribute to hormone disruption, behavioral problems, learning disabilities, and many other health problems.

If you want to keep your home softly lit and cozy without risking your health go for beeswax candles with cotton wicks.

For more information on how to make your own beeswax candles read How to Make Beeswax Candles.

3. Art Supplies

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Certain art supplies like Epoxy and rubber cement glues, acrylic paints and solvents, and permanent markers contain chemicals linked to allergies, organ damage, and cancer.

Children are particularly vulnerable to toxins because of their higher metabolisms, and immature immune systems, so it pays to exercise extra care with the products they use.

To find nontoxic and green alternatives to common art supplies, or recipes for making your own, read Are Art Supplies Toxic?

Shampoos

Unlikely as it may sound, conventional shampoos have too many toxic ingredients. Funny as it may sound, their effects are still being researched, and there is no scientific consensus whether they cause cancer.

But if you want to be on the safe side, you can use any of the myriad of handmade shampoo bars, offered on Etsy.

4. Antiperspirant

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Most conventional deodorants and antiperspirants contain several ingredients linked to virulent cancers. Since deodorants and antiperspirants are designed to stay on our bodies for hours, this allows the potential absorption of harmful chemicals through the skin.

After I read this article on Green Living Ideas I completely stopped using antiperspirants but am yet to write an extensive post about that.

Read the Green Living Ideas article here: Natural Deodorants and Antiperspirants

Shower curtains

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Plastic shower curtains leach toxic chemicals not only into your shower or bath, but also into the environment, emitting harmful chemicals called volatile organic chemicals or VOCs.

Reducing your contact with any of these products, in addition to conventional cleaners, will surely make your home your castle.

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We may not be as ugly or disgusting as we think we are but we think so because we are told so :( must watch and LEARN!!

I think it’s kind of a dogmatic believe if you think that you’re not capable of doing things or you’re not amazing. i think it’s maybe because YOU are not SEEING YOU!!! everyone is born with glitters only that the glitters of some could be different from those of others. Just walk out and maybe interlude your inner symphony

WHAT IF ANIMALS TREATED US THE WAY WE TREAT THEM!!??

What would life be like if animals treated us the same way we treat them? These incredibly thought-provoking cartoons that reverse the human/animal roles will make you cringe when you realize what it would be like to be in the same position as many animals are today. How would you like the be made into a fashionable handbag? Or perhaps you would prefer to be a rug on someone’s floor? Every living-being deserves the same type of respect and love, whether they’re human or animal!
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Winnie The Pooh: “Sometimes the smallest things take the most room in your heart.”

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Winnie the Pooh made his great debut into our lives in 1924, and since then, the bear has innocently made his way through life in the Hundred Acre Wood, leading his readers on interesting and memorable adventures. Pooh is seen as a bit dopey, but his dopiness yields some pretty profound wisdom. Here are some of our favorites from over the years.

Piglet: “How do you spell ‘love’?”
Pooh: “You don’t spell it…you feel it.”
“The things that make me different are the things that make me.”
“You are braver than you believe. Stronger than you seem. And smarter than you think.”
“Sometimes the smallest things take the most room in your heart.”
“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.”
“Some people care too much. I think it’s called love.”
“Weeds are flowers, too, once you get to know them.”
“I think we dream so we don’t have to be apart for so long. If we’re in each other’s dreams, we can be together all the time.”
“You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.”
“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”
“A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference.”
“A day without a friend is like a pot without a single drop of honey left inside.”
“If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together keep me in your heart. I’ll stay there forever.”
“A day spent with you is my favourite day. So today is my new favourite day.”
“How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”